We're meeting for the first time
So you've posted your advert, you've gone through
your replies, and you've found a couple to swing with for the
first time. By now you've chatted on-line, got to know each other
over the phone, they sound nice enough people and have the same
likes and dislikes as you....She is bi-curious, he is straight,
they are looking for a first time experience, and have been looking
for the right people for sometime now. They live just an hour
away, and are willing to meet you. You all admit that you're not
supermodels, and laugh about your nervousness.....
I bet you have butterflys (I still do, five years
on). Remember that although the vaste majority swingers are really
nice, you will get the odd wierdo trying to meet you. With this
in mind, think safety first and follow these tips :-
* Never give out your home number, if you want
them to ring you, use a mobile number.
* Never give out your home address or your last name, you can
never be to carefull.
* If you are meeting privately (not at a club or party ), tell
a trusted friend where you are going, and arrange to call them
sometime through your meeting, just so they know that you are
safe, this also lets whoever you are meeting know that someone
knows where you are.
* Always talk to them on the phone, especially if they are supposed
to be a couple. Arrange a time to speak to both male and female,
as very often you get men pretending to be a couple, who use excuses
like, sorry my wife/girlfriend is at work, or out. This is more
often that not, a timewaster.
* If you do arrange to meet someone, make sure you meet in a public
place, this way if you decide you don't like the person/people,
then you can make your excuses and leave with no comebacks.
Expectations may run high.... lets meet and then
go onto somewhere private, you or they may be thinking. Trust
your instincts with your potential new friends. Do you get an
uneasy feeling?.... is someone trying to rush into something?....
does the reality not fit with what you heard on the phone or on-line.
You don't have to have sex on the first date !
If you decide that you do like the person/people,
are planning on using your home ,and you think you can trust them,
then let them follow you to your house. Another alternative is
a hotel, that you can split the costs of.
How do we get the ball rolling? You have met...talked,
and have gotten over the nervousness of the initial meeting. You've
been laughing, joking, and getting to know each other, talking
and sharing secrets. Under the table your partner is rubbing the
top of your thigh...the two of you know that this is right....do
they think the same thing?
Across the table they are playing footsie, and
exchanging glances.....Now what? Someone has to make the first
move or say something to get the ball rolling. Just talking about
your fantasies may be what you need. Sometimes swinging couples
party games are the way to go, like truth or dare, or using a
normal pack of cards and coming up with your own game. Everyone
writes suggestions on small pieces of paper fold them, put them
in a hat, and whoever loses the game, picks one and acts out the
suggestion. Always make your own partner feel important, kiss
them passionatly to get things started. Even if your new friends
are experienced they will be nervous too, and if they have experience,
and you feel comfortable....let them guide you.
If your meeting does evolve into a party come
prepared....shower and shave.....bring your own condoms and other
necessities, oh, and make sure you are wearing horny underwear....ladies
you don't want to meet another couple in your belly slappers!
and that goes for the lads aswell.
Take your partners, and the other couple/singles
needs and feelings into consideration, and remember to HAVE FUN!
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